Parents and grandparents are often heard saying that our kid will be a doctor, we will make him an engineer or the like. I remember telling my mother once that I want to be a hairstylist just to be mocked at with the pretext that I wanted to be a barber. While I have loathed this mentality all my life, I also found myself guilty of making such a statement when I said that I never wanted my baby to be an engineer. While the idea that engineers are abundant and the degree has been exploited to death was in the back of my mind, it still doesn’t make sense as to why I should be making such a statement.
A child’s life is his own and the decision of a career lies only with them. We may guide them with pros and cons of a particular profession but forcing our will sprouting out of our own failures is the worst thing to do. Maximum career disappointments are caused due to lack of proper guidance and channelization. At a point in the child’s career where all they are trying to do is figure out their passion, we overload them with expectations and biased opinions based on our notions.
Children consider parents and other adults are torch bearers and while they may retaliate at instances, advice and suggestions still stay at the forefront. It is our responsibility to guide them in a manner that doesn’t pressurize them and helps them take an informed decision. We won’t be around for all of their life, their career will, it is better they decide it for themselves and discover it as they move forward in life based on their understanding of subjects and their own interest.
How would you feel if you love to paint but end up repairing computers?
Think about it